At the same time, my heart has been aching. For those of you that don't know, I have a dear friend named Gina. I won't share all the details, but after a long journey of trying to get pregnant and finally succeeding... she and her husband were devastated to find out that 10 1/2 weeks into their pregnancy, they had lost their baby. Their story is here. It has been really hard... I can't imagine how hard it's been for her and I don't pretend to understand - but as her friend, it breaks my heart to watch her go through it. I was with her as she went through the 10 long months of trying and celebrated with her as her dreams came true. There are so many questions that don't have answers...
It has been a week and a half, but for Gina the pain is still fresh. God has shown Himself so faithful during this time and Gina has felt everyone's prayers. I know one fear has been that her little baby will be forgotten because he or she wasn't here very long... I found a poem that speaks to that, and I wanted to post it. I guess I'm hoping in some way to honor Gina for her strength and to honor her little baby's life...
For those few weeks-
I had you to myself.
And that seems too short a time
to be changed so profoundly.
In those few weeks-
I came to know you...
and to love you.
You came to trust me with your life.
Oh, what a life I had planned for you!
Just those few weeks-
When I lost you,
I lost a lifetime of hopes,
plans, dreams, and aspirations...
A slice of my future simply vanished overnight.
Just those few weeks-
It wasn't enough time to convince others
how special and important you were.
How odd, a truly unique person has recently died
and no one is mourning the passing.
Just a mere few weeks-
And no "normal" person would cry all night
over a tiny, unfinished baby,
or get depressed and withdraw day after endless day.
No one would, so why am I?
You were just those few weeks my little one
you darted in and out of my life too quickly.
But it seems that's all the time you needed
to make my life so much richer
and give me a small glimpse of eternity.
By Susan Erling Martinez
Gina gave me permission to post this. Gina, I just want you to know that I admire your strength and I love you dearly. We are mourning the loss of someone very dear, someone who was wanted and loved SO much. I know that God will bring restoration and healing - and I know a portion of that will come with the next little baby you will be blessed with! Though I am mourning with you, I am excited to celebrate victory with you, too! I love you.
I want to mention that I have another close friend that suffered the same loss through miscarriage recently. She knows who she is - this is for you, too. I love you.
2 comments:
Thanks for that! We have several mutual friends . . . but I don't know you! I'm Gina's sister-in-law, Adam's sister.
Oh my word that is so sweet. That poem is perfect. Had me crying just from the title.
Gina is blessed to have you as a friend to love her through this time. I love her so much, too, and it's so hard to not be able to take the pain away. How great it will be for her and Adam to finally meet that perfect little baby one day with Jesus!
Thanks Ginger.
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